Keeping your employee handbook … handy
Is your employee handbook handy? We ask in both senses of the term: Yours should be readily available and within easy reach, but it should also be practical, relevant and, dare we suggest, fun to read.
Year end is a great time to review your employee handbook to make sure it meets these criteria. You can look back over the preceding 12 months and consider whether and how your handbook has served its purpose. Plus, now is a perfect time to anticipate any regulatory changes that take effect in 2016.
Find the right balance
Understandably, many employers view their employee handbooks as very serious documents with two primary functions:
- To establish clear boundaries around employee behavior, and
- To provide legal support for any adverse action the organization might need to take.
Creating a sensible, defensible social media policy
Post, Tweet, Share … Carefully
Creating a sensible, defensible social media policy
It’s probably safe to say that social media is no longer a “hot, new business trend.” The practice of interacting on a wide variety of platforms — including Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn — is pretty much part and parcel of operating in most industries. So, for employers, the question is no longer “Will our employees use social media?” as much as “How will our employees use social media?”
To effectively answer this question, your organization likely needs a formal social media policy. But crafting such a document — and enforcing it — is neither simple nor easy. These policies have potential pitfalls that can undermine the business value of social media and even land you in court.
Identify Your Objectives
The first key to establishing a sound social media policy is to identify, specifically, what you’re trying to achieve. Some typical objectives are to:
- Protect the organization should a current or former employee post content that damages its brand or reputation,
- Help current and former employees understand what they can and can’t do on social media,
- Empower employees to use social media in appropriate and even innovative ways to strengthen an organization’s brand and reputation.
- Be vigilant and flexible. As nice as it would be to etch a social media policy in stone and set it out for all to see, the Internet doesn’t work that way. With new technologies coming online all the time, you’ll need to regularly review your policy and make adjustments.
- Train your workers diligently. Many organizations look at their social media policies as just another page in their employee handbooks. Maybe they require everyone to read and sign it but, after the policy is filed away, no one pays much attention to it. This is a mistake.
Workload Overload? Use 4 D’s to Help you Take Control!
In March of this year, CNN reported that the economy experienced the lowest unemployment rate since May of 2008 – before the financial crisis. Great news! The economy is back. The flux in opportunity can also bring increased workloads. How are you managing your workload productivity? Do you over-commit and over-promise? Identifying over-work can be challenging. At Performance Dimensions Group we think we can help you manage better with 4 D’s – Discuss, Delay, Deny and Delegate. Regardless of your title/position in the organization you work in, these are great tactics that will help you manage better.
- Discuss. In order to negotiate and find a compromise there must be discussion. Ask yourself if you have the capacity. Am I the only one with the skill set to complete it? Is this a sensitive issue that only I can know about? It’s important to match the right task to the right individual. Clarifying boundaries and making a list of your concerns can help you feel prepared. Discuss quality over quantity and if you have the resources you need to do the task at hand. Keep in mind, communication is a must. It will help you find a way to meet everyone’s needs.
- Delay. Tell the other party what priority the project has and when it can be done. An example of something to say might be “I’m sorry, I can’t complete the spreadsheet by Friday. Can I get it back to you by next Wednesday when I’m finished with my client meetings?” Refer to your master list – look at the outstanding tasks. Rate them in terms of urgency and importance. Prioritize. And don't be afraid to share your priorities with others - they may want to negotiate to place their interests higher on the list but both of you will walk away with clarity rather than disappointment. Prioritizing also helps you take charge and manage your time wisely. Putting a task on hold that you know you don’t have the capacity for will actually increase your productivity.
- Deny. Politely tell the person that their request can’t be done right now or in the near future (and offer an alternative or tell them why.) Be honest with yourself and know that adding one more item on your list will result in working beyond your normal office hours which cuts into your personal time. By denying a task, you are effectively managing your current capacity. Example: “I’m sorry, I won’t be able to take on this project right now. I know Amanda is a great coach with extensive experience. Would you be comfortable letting her take this on?”
- Delegate. Force yourself to let go. Give it to someone else on the team – or perhaps even the person trying to give it to you. Remember to ask; don’t just tell someone you need help. It’s important to match the right task to the right individual. Determine what resources will be needed to support the individual and inform them that you want to stay connected. This will help the person that you are delegating to succeed with the project. Example: “Suzanne on my team has survey data analysis experience. This project sounds like a good fit for her. I’ll make sure we connect and have a good understanding of your expectations.”
Office Space (or thoughts thereof)
Reconsidering your surroundings can boost productivity
Picture your workspace and the building in which it’s situated. If you’re reading this at work, maybe you don’t have to “picture” anything — you can just look around. What do you see? Are you completely comfortable? Could your organization’s offices be reconfigured to boost productivity?
The thought of redesigning your offices may seem overwhelming. But, if you lease that space, the opportunity may eventually arise — perhaps even soon. And even if you have no intention of looking for new facilities anytime soon, just thinking about the nature and configuration of your surroundings can lead to some worthwhile ideas.
Closed vs. open
For many decades, most workplaces followed the same general format. Owners and executives were tucked away in their large corner offices, further secluded by a receptionist’s area. Middle managers had smaller offices, similarly secured by doors and walls. Granted, there may have been some open areas for secretarial pools or the like, but such “closed-plan” offices were commonplace.
All of this started to change circa the 1990s, when companies started to move toward “cubicle farms” — vast floors of high-walled cubes with just enough room for a desk and some shelving. But a funny thing happened as the ’90s segued into the early 21st century. Those cubicle walls started to shrink in size and the “open-plan” office was born.
In a true open-plan office, there are no cubicle walls. Everyone works in a large, exposed area — either at separate desks or sometimes with multiple employees sharing the same large table. The idea is to foster communication and collaboration — and, ideally, lose the sometimes depressing, dystopian feel of those old cubicle farms. Plus, from a business management perspective, open-plan offices are often less expensive to rent and more flexible to expanding or contracting a workforce.
Open-plan layouts were all the rage for a while. In fact, as of 2013, 70% of American employees worked in open-plan offices, according to the International Facility Management Association. But, nowadays, they’re experiencing a bit of a backlash.
For instance, a study entitled “Workspace satisfaction: The privacy-communication trade-off in open-plan offices,” published in the December 2013 Journal of Environmental Psychology, found that employees in open-plan layouts were less happy with their workspaces than those with private work areas. The report also found that workers in open-plan offices largely believed that the advantages of easy interaction with their co-workers weren’t worth the higher noise levels and decreased privacy.
Going with the flow
As you look at your organization’s offices, consider which side of the closed vs. open debate you fall on. If you’re struggling with the “knowledge silos” that can inhibit the dissemination of mission-critical information and prevent people from communicating, maybe it’s time to give some version of the open-plan layout a shot.
Then again, perhaps you’ve already moved toward an open plan and the noise is driving your staff crazy! In that case, there’s no shame in looking into the idea of putting up some walls or reconfiguring certain areas to promote peace, quiet and contemplation.
What many organizations are now finding is that their ideal layout is neither closed nor open. Rather, they’re configuring floor plans that flow from collaborative to contemplative and back again.
One popularly discussed example is a Michigan-based furniture manufacturer called Steelcase. When the company recently redesigned its headquarters, it created a range of workspaces from a wide-open finance department with counters and shared tables to “Quiet Spaces” that allow one person to work — you guessed it — quietly or two or three to collaborate without disturbing others.
2 more factors to consider
There are, of course, many other factors to consider when reimagining the physical space around you. Just a couple of pertinent ones are:
- Generational preferences. Look at the demographics of your organization — and where those numbers are heading. As Baby Boomers retire and Generation Xers (those born between 1965 and 1980) settle into leadership or other established roles, Millennials (those born between 1981 and 2000) will gradually fill up workplaces nationwide.
- A desire to access their data anywhere, anytime,
- An assumption that they can easily connect with every other co-worker, no matter where that person might be physically located, and
- A strong need to freely engage in team collaboration in pleasant environments.
- The “t” word. When discussing office space, there’s an 800-pound gorilla in the room that many organizations overlook. Well, actually, the gorilla isn’t in the room because it’s working from home these days. We’re referring, of course, to the “t” word — telecommuting.
Leadership Takes A Vacation
We love what we do. Our business thrives on watching you and your organizations grow and prosper. We know how important it is to remain excited about your job, your employees and your organization’s mission. But sometimes the best way to do this is … to take some time off. Yes, that’s right! Taking a vacation has proven to be not only good for you but also good for your organization.
Because it’s still summer for a little while longer, we started thinking about vacation and, as we talked with many of our clients, realized that many of you are working right through the summer months and plan not to take any vacation at all this year. Well, we’re here to tell you that this is a bad idea.
5 Reasons to Take a Break
Here are five sound business reasons why you should take a break:
1. Going on a vacation shows you have confidence in yourself and your team. Essentially, you’re telling them — and everyone else — that you trust your people and believe your processes won’t devolve into a festering mess in your absence.
What’s more, delegating some of your ownership/management responsibilities to others while you vacation is a good way to test your key employees and get a sense of how ready they may be to take a step forward in their careers.
2. People who work all the time are boring. Sure, pie charts and spread sheets are great, but occasionally people like to hear about Disneyland, camping or Vegas. Set the right example: Upon your return, call a “debriefing” meeting to discuss what you missed while you were gone. But, instead of getting right down to business, share some details of your time off — maybe even a slide show or video.
You obviously don’t want to get too personal with the details, but sharing some fun anecdotes and images can set a fun, productive tone for the meeting and solidify relationships with attendees.
3. Your team is more productive when you go away. Seriously, many workers tend to relax and focus better when allowed to work independently — or, in this case, ultra-independently seeing as how you won’t even be in the office.
Again, this is an opportunity to both trust and challenge your workers. Although you shouldn’t overburden employees with additional duties while you’re gone, you might ask a chosen staff member or two to cover for you in a key area.
When you get back, see how they did. Sometimes an employee entrusted with an important responsibility will offer a fresh perspective on the task and may even improve on how you handle it. For this reason, try to resist the urge to change things back to “your” way when you return — at least until you’re sure that your way is better.
4. You will be more productive when you come back. If you step away from the daily noise and give your back-of-mind processes a chance to chew on things, the most strategic processes will likely reassert themselves as the clutter falls away. “The pause that refreshes” may be a cliché, but it’s also often true.
5. Taking time off increases creativity. Did you know that Kevin Systrom came up with the idea for Instagram on a beach in Mexico? Graphic designer and typographer Stefan Sagmeister (designed album covers for Lou Reed, The Rolling Stones, and Aerosmith) takes a year-long creative sabbatical every seven years to revitalize his creativity. Taking time away from your organization can actually motivate you and help you think outside the box.
As Seattle continues to set records for consecutive days with high temperatures (this August 2015 broke the old record from 2003 of 61 days at or warmer than 70 degrees) we hope that you take time away from work—even if it’s just a day or two. Put your laptop away, hide your phone and just be present for the needed time away. Quieting the noise for a while is especially important in today’s business world. When you go on vacation — go on vacation! Take a page from the bankers and stay totally out of touch while you’re out.
When we’re not on summer vacation, PDG is thrilled to be ramping up for a great Fall! Our next Leadership Acceleration Program (LEAPÒ) group will be starting in the fall! We have small cohort groups starting in Seattle/Bellevue, Tacoma, Portland, Bay Area, and San Diego. LEAP can help you learn how to effectively incorporate vacations into your busy schedule as well as elevate your leadership skills in many, many other ways. It’s a 12 month journey focused on real world application. Join us online to learn more. Register at http://bit.ly/LEAPWebinar for: Thursday, September 17, 9am PT. We look forward to hearing about your summer adventures next time we connect. Be well!
Please and thank you – Office Etiquette
How office etiquette can drive productivity
Bad behavior in the workplace is easy to joke about. The movie and television industries have made millions laugh over the years with various tales of office high jinks — from “Nine to Five” in 1980 to the cult classic “Office Space” in 1999 to more recent TV hits such as “The Office” and “Parks and Rec.”
But, in real life, breaches in office etiquette aren’t quite as funny. Excessive noise and chatter can distract and irritate employees. Uncertain policies about business-appropriate dress codes can create awkwardness and resentment. Out-of-control gossip can lead to distrust and personality conflicts.
Yet there’s a flip side as well. That is, if you can foster an environment of positive office etiquette, the resulting good feelings and supportive culture can actually drive productivity.
Noise in the air
Now that typewriters have gone the way of the dinosaurs, and fax machines are no longer shrieking like pterodactyls, workplaces should theoretically be peaceful oases of calm. But, be it exuberant conversations or sassy ring tones, there’s still plenty of noise in the air.
Does that matter? Aren’t workplaces supposed to sound busy? Yes and no. Cornell University published an article in a 2001 issue of the Journal of Applied Psychology finding that workers in noisy environments had noticeably higher levels of the stress hormone epinephrine in their systems than employees in quieter offices. The workers dealing with lots of noise were both more stressed out and less likely to seek out ergonomic adjustments to their workspaces. So they were anxious and uncomfortable.
As you walk around your offices or other work areas, what do you hear? Total silence isn’t the goal — that could make staff just as uncomfortable as noise. But you want employees to exercise etiquette that strikes the right balance between productive, socially acceptable sounds and all-out chaos.
What specific steps you should take depends on the problem. If loud devices are at issue, ask employees who wish to listen to music or other audio to wear noise-canceling headphones. (Naturally, you need to add a caveat that workers can’t be so zoned out that they don’t respond to phone calls or requests from co-workers.) And consider implementing a “phones on vibrate” policy, if noisy ring tones are disrupting the environment.
If conversations are the problem, look into how your facilities are arranged. Can you set aside some small conference rooms or study carrels where employees might retreat to silence when necessary? If not, perhaps encourage employees to go to designated meeting areas for conversations that will likely last more than, say, 10 minutes. Be prepared to bite the bullet and speak privately with “loud talkers,” who may not be aware of how far their voices carry.
Dress policy particulars
In sharp contrast to office noise levels, proper attire is a silent productivity killer. If someone is either dressing inappropriately or blatantly flouting a stated dress policy, it can distract other workers, foster resentment, and lead to gossip and even arguments.
The most direct way of dealing with clothing etiquette is to create (or update) an organizational dress policy. Before doing so, however, hold a management-level discussion regarding your organization’s reasons for defining attire. Talk about — and even debate — why you want staff to dress a certain way and whether the policy truly jibes with your culture.
When articulating your policy, be sure to provide examples. For instance, rather than only telling staff that jeans aren’t allowed, list types of casual pants that are acceptable (such as corduroys and khakis). This not only will help employees better understand what they can and can’t wear, but also give them a sense of freedom due to having several options.
Furthermore, address the consequences for employees who breach etiquette. Let them know what will happen if they’re dressed inappropriately. Consider giving written warnings and other measures for minor infractions; and enforce this policy consistently and in writing to avoid discrimination claims.
The flow of gossip
“Don’t gossip” has been an office etiquette axiom since prehistoric tribes first built cubicles inside their caves. And yet it happens — and will continue to happen. Why? For many, gossip is a bonding mechanism. If you trust someone enough to share a secret with them, the makings of a relationship must be present. So employees talk — and confide —and, well, gossip.
Although you should continue to discourage gossip, smart organizations also learn to use it to their advantage. For starters, in most offices, the identities of the most active, influential staff members are pretty clear. Once these individuals are identified, encourage your managers to channel timely, relevant organizational information to them. Be sure to convey both the decisions being made and the rationale behind them.
The goal here isn’t necessarily to encourage gossip. Rather, you’re trying to increase the chances that, when hushed conversations do take place, employees are exchanging accurate information and, you hope, telling each other the whole story.
After all, gossip tends to flow the most freely when employee anxiety and uncertainty are high because of lack of information. If a change is on the horizon and it hasn’t been formally communicated to your staff, you can safely assume the rumor mill is grinding away.
Of course, it’s just as imperative for you to listen as it is to speak. What’s going around the rumor mill is a good indication of staff concerns, where your formal communications might be falling short and what the current level of morale is. Keeping your ear to the grapevine or water cooler (or whatever metaphor you prefer) can yield important information for better managing and motivating employees.
Culture and environment
These are just a few general areas of etiquette to consider. We haven’t even mentioned such workplace classics as: 1) Don’t steal other people’s food from the fridge! 2) Don’t reheat anything that’s going to have the entire office reaching for air freshener! and 3) For goodness’ sake, if you finish the coffee — start a new pot!
So much of office etiquette comes down to your organization’s distinctive culture and working environment. Performance Dimensions Group would be happy to assess your culture and environment and offer our experienced insights into what “etiquette tweaks” could make your staff more productive. Feel free to contact us here.
Performance Reviews – Dead or Dread?
How do you feel about giving feedback? Do you dread it? Is it something you give daily, weekly, monthly? Or is the process just dead? Lately we’ve been doing a great deal of work with clients on Performance Management. The top question we’re asked is, “Should we even bother doing performance reviews?”
Managers and supervisors want them gone because they take up so much time. Employees want them because it’s the only time they get a “report card.” Are performance reviews worth the time and money spent?
When completed correctly, performance reviews play a key role in the achievement of business success. Organizations need to view appraisals as part of an overall performance evaluation process vs. a “fill in the blank” once a year report.
The power to inspire
A review is a great communication tool that ensures that the manager/supervisor and the employee are clear about the requirements of the job. It has the power to inspire people to give their best effort, as well as to make them feel respected and important.
A meaningful conversation can connect an employee to the organization’s purpose – give them a sense of belonging and make them feel like part of the company’s future. Studies have shown how companies benefit when employees feel engaged and valued. To read more about a recent study click here.
Tips for better reviews
In a recent article “5 ways to evolve THE DREADED REVIEW,” Cornerstone OnDemand listed five tips that we agree will help you revive your organization’s performance review process:
- Performance happens daily (and reviews should, too).
- Reviews should be conversations.
- Reviews should have a purpose.
- Embrace simplicity and consistency.
- Change the review experience.
- Goal Setting
- Expectation Setting
- Continuous Feedback & Coaching
- Development
- Recognition & Reward
Putting the WE in Teams
Back to back Super Bowls for the Seattle Seahawks - how was that ever possible? Over a month has passed since Super Bowl XLIX. What exactly makes the Hawks so special? Perhaps it is our impeccable defense. Maybe it’s our rookie QB who has managed to set records in his first 3 years. Some might say that we have the best running back in the NFL. But the truth is no one player really stands out more than any other. You can’t win a football game without every single position - offense and defense.
After not speaking to the media all season, Marshawn Lynch answered only one question following the game: an inquiry about whether he was surprised he didn't get the chance to score the game-winning touchdown when Seattle had the ball on the Patriots' 1-yard line. Lynch claimed he wasn't at a loss and simply said, "This is a team game."
When it comes to teambuilding, what is most critical is getting everyone to think of themselves as a whole. It’s about creating a culture that thrives on working together, being the best that you can be. It’s about the WE. Pete Carroll’s leadership style of competitiveness — identifying and maximizing the uniqueness of every player and coach, and thriving on a nurturing environment — allows his players to be themselves. And, most important, it focuses on accountability to the team. This idea of team building can work on any level, including in your own organization.
Build around your leadership
Inc.com recently published an article entitled "5 Things Smart Managers Know About Building Teams." These are the 5 things that were listed:
- Play to individual strengths: Is the employee in the right place so he or she can shine?
- Encourage transparency: Talk through issues and make sure team members understand each other.
- Establish ground rules: Make sure the team knows your leadership style and know what goals are set.
- Let them know you have their back: The team needs to know that they have unconditional support.
- Provide an incentive: Everyone enjoys a reward for achieving a goal. Sometimes the reward is achieving the goal itself and being recognized by one's Manager. Regardless — communicate what it is.
Press Start to Play
The Allure and Alarm Bells of Gamification
Fifty years ago, if you’d walked into a business meeting and suggested employees start playing games at work, you might’ve been fired. Today, the idea isn’t just a random suggestion; it’s a multimillion dollar industry.
Gamification — the concept of motivating users to stay engaged, complete tasks and achieve goals through game play — has sent software developers into overdrive. As you read these very words, coders are hard at work trying to design applications to meet the gaming (yes, gaming) needs of organizations large and small. Yet whether gamification is right for you is a question well worth asking.
Why gamify?
Have you ever lost track of time playing a game — be it an old-fashioned crossword puzzle in the newspaper or one of those social word games on your smartphone? And have you ever felt that particular sense of satisfaction that comes with finishing the crossword or winning the word game?
If you can answer “yes” to these questions, you already know the driving force behind gamification. Games enthrall us, holding our attention and helping us learn. And, as long as they’re not too frustrating, games bring us a sense of accomplishment — eventually. Games are also social: We like to play them together and talk about them.
Now transfer all of these positives to your workplace. A properly gamified process will engage employees, giving them extra motivation to stay focused and complete the job-related tasks involved in the game. From a training perspective, they’ll learn more quickly and easily. Job satisfaction will increase, because they’re not just succeeding at work — they’re winning games! And again, ideally, gamification will bring employees closer together as they work and play collaboratively.
Employees or customers?
It’s here we should make an important distinction. When gamification first began to arise in the public consciousness several years ago, there was some debate and discussion about whether games should be offered to employees or customers.
Many organizations first opted for customers. There’s a certain logic to doing so. What better way to keep a website visitor (and potential buyer) from wandering elsewhere than drawing him or her into a game? How can you go wrong having your logo on users’ smartphones, maintaining your marketing visibility and giving them a fun distraction?
Yet the general consensus today is that gamification is better suited for internal purposes, not external ones. With so much competition for customers’ eyeballs, many aren’t going to spend all that much time playing a product- or service-provider’s game unless the prize at the end is ridiculously substantial and easy to obtain. Otherwise, the end result (typically a discount or freebie) typically isn’t worth the time expended.
That’s not to say some organizations might not be able to pull off a customer-focused game. It all depends on your industry, strategic objectives and specific market. But, by and large, organizations are focusing their gamification efforts on two aspects of employee engagement: 1) training and career development, and 2) fulfillment of job-related tasks and goals.
Who’s doing it?
So, seriously, are real-world organizations using games to train and engage their employees? In a word, yes. And they’ve been doing so for some time.
Retail giant Wal-Mart launched a gamified approach to corporate safety and compliance procedures in 2012. The program aims to improve performance behaviors using game play, participant competition and leaderboards. The company has reported a 50% decline in lost time and reduced incident rates regarding days away from work and job restrictions, thanks to the initiative.
In 2013, RMH Franchise, the company that runs popular restaurant chain Applebee’s, launched a gamified website for the eatery’s hourly employees. The goal: Increase employee retention in an industry plagued by high turnover. A company rep has indicated that the early results have been positive.
Overall, gamification is projected as going nowhere but up. In 2012, tech industry observer M2 Research estimated that the global market for gamification apps and services will grow to $2.8 billion by 2016. Research group MarketsandMarkets has gone one better, projecting the gamification market to rise in value to $5.5 billion by 2018.
What could go wrong?
Naturally, judicious organizations should proceed carefully. As enticing and interesting as gamification may be, there are considerable risks to jumping headlong onto the bandwagon.
For starters, many gamification projects fail when the organization in question doesn’t really know what it’s trying to achieve. It wants to gamify something because the idea is appealing and employees will surely love it. But, without a clear objective, months go by while concepts are debated and many hours and dollars are lost fumbling around in the dark. Pick a clearly gamifiable training program or business process, gather consensus, and construct a feasible plan.
Also, be sure your gamified process sits squarely in the middle of two overlapping circles. One circle should represent your organizational goals, while the other represents each participant’s performance goals. If there’s white space between these two circles, the gamification effort could very well fail.
Another big risk is the absence of emotion. We know — generally, when tackling business matters, you want to leave emotions out of it. But, for a game to succeed, it must have an emotional component for players. If employees won’t really care about the outcome, the process in question won’t likely see any of gamification’s potential benefits.
Where to begin?
If we’ve piqued your interest about gamification, you’re probably wondering where to get started. Please feel free to contact us here at Performance Dimensions Group. We’d be happy to serve as a source of objectivity and reason regarding the concept of gamification as it applies to your organization. We also have many other ideas, assessments and tools for increasing employee engagement.
Leadership Inspiration
Leadership Inspiration - from Charlie Chaplin
Without doubt there exist many great leadership speeches about vision, charisma, teams, communication, delegation, commitment, clarity, honesty, etc. given by respected and famous business leaders and managers.
There is one, however, I believe to be a rather unique and inspirational one. At the same time, it's a very unusual one. One which talks about exceptional leadership only at a second glance. Why?
It's a speech about a simple word: Love! What love means and what it stimulates in you and your environment. The answer: Nothing less than authenticity, respect, maturity, self-confidence, simplicity, modesty, fulfillment, and even a special sense of wisdom. Key leadership characteristics in order to love – and as a consequence – to grow yourself, your team, and your customer base. Without these attributes you will not be able to manage and to lead a successful business.
The speech is called As I Began To Love Myself:
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is AUTHENTICITY.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody as I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it RESPECT.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it MATURITY.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment, so I could be calm. Today I call it SELF-CONFIDENCE.
As I began to love myself I quit steeling my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it SIMPLICITY.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is LOVE OF ONESELF.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is MODESTY.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worry about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it FULFILLMENT.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But As I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection WISDOM OF THE HEART.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know THAT IS LIFE!
What do you think? Looking forward to receiving your feedback. Join the discussion!
Please note: This post originally attributed the text to famed comedian Charlie Chaplin. There is, however, no evidence it is indeed Chaplin's work. Online hoaxbusters attribute it to a retranslation of "When I Loved Myself Enough" by Kim McMillen.